If you have been "The other woman" who has slept with your friends husband...don't get offended by this....You were basically a BLEEP in my eyes but hey...If you're going to be a BLEEP be the best one you can be!

Why Be The Other Woman?..... It seems that she has been around since the beginning of time. She is documented in the beginning and on through the days of Julius Caesar, early European royalty, the era of George Washington and Ben Franklin, on through the decades to today. **Whew this BLEEP has been around for a minute**

The other woman.... She is sometimes referred to as scavenger to have sex with anyone because she can and the challenge it brings, seductress, home-wrecker and mindless dreamer, a woman scorned by many a wife and often shunned by those considered to be "decent church going people". The other woman can be found in all races and ethnicities, in all income level and social classes.

She'll never realize she is wasting her time and living her life foolishly, many among this subset just don't seem to get it; they don't understand (or refuse to accept) that what they are doing sleeping with and otherwise carrying on with someone else's husband is wrong, devious and deceitful, that it is considered a sin by those who believe in the Bible, and is likely, in the end, to reap nothing but heartaches and pain, trouble and despair. So why do this yourself???? Also, the ones who claim to be church going are the worst ones! **TRUST**

Most women who have been there and done that will admit that it was not the right thing to do. Many feel that they have wasted their lives on a man who did little to reciprocate other than to be an outlet for good sex, generous gifts and sometimes CASH.

The ones that I have seen try to end it, got caught up in the fluff of his words and came bearing so many gifts and perks that it was hard to walk away. Yet, he neither walked away from the wife. They actually think that he was the love her life and that he eventually would marry her. **PLEASE**

Why waste your best years on men devoted to other women?

Women that those who are supposedly "happy" being the other woman, actually have significant problems with intimacy and self-esteem. They have convinced themselves that they are content with being second or sometimes third (if there are children in the picture) in the man's life, somewhere in these women's histories they have been repeatedly told that they were not worth being loved or some variation on this or they were abandoned by their fathers when they were young and never learned how to develop a mutual relationship with a man. **FROM RESEARCH**

When these early developmental milestones are either not present or are interrupted by abrupt traumatic events, and as these women get older, it is difficult for them to understand and therefore cherish the beauty of a loving relationship that could evolve between a man and a woman. The fear of rejection or of being hurt is so great that these women are not willing to take the risk of finding someone with whom they can be in an exclusive relationship, they defend against it. More times than not (experts say) this is an unconscious process.

The "other women" in retrospect, realizes why her lover could only see her on certain days; on the other days he was driving home to his wife and she seldom saw him on weekends. **She had to wait for the wife to go out of town or etc**

This self absorbed weak man will get you everytime, then you are in love and you are emotionally tied up. He will tell his friends about you and make you look desperate and foolish. He will have the rep as "THE MAN". If you go into such a relationship knowing that he is married, you can't blame anyone but yourself for the outcome.

I mean come on...Are your needs being met? Are you being fulfilled and loved the way you should be loved, nurtured and cared for? Are you content being second, third or fourth in a man's life? If it's only for monetary gain, are you sacrificing your self-worth and self-esteem for dinners or etc... Maybe they are.....Hmmmm

The other women(as well as the husband) also should consider the impact the relationship is having on the man's wife and innocent children, and how the other woman would feel if the roles were reserved. In addition, many in the role of the "other woman" are "lonely, sad and alone" on and are unable to contact their lovers when they really need them.

If he's someone else's husband, he is not 'your own. The other woman is just getting the leftovers. A relationship in which you are the other woman is one-sided. You are usually waiting on him to call, to come by, to find time to see you. He's getting all the benefits; you are getting the leftovers. You are not first on his list and never will be.....SO WAKE UP!!!!!

Now don't get it twisted...I'm well aware that it takes two...I'm not just getting on The Other Woman. Geez I haven't even started on the Husband yet......the one who thinks he's the greatest gift to women. The one who takes your friendships and destroys them by sleeping with them.....Oh LAWD don't get me started!!!!!!!

But that's another story.......